Keeping a House Clean When Life Happens

I hate cleaning. This is a fact that has been well-documented (or, to non-bloggers, whined about a whole lot).

But over the past several months, I’ve found a pretty good groove of doing chores fairly regularly and keeping our house neat and tidy (for the most part). However, I still have a problem anytime life happens.

That could mean we went out of town, someone was sick, I got a new book from the library or we were out unusually late or often several days in a row. But no matter the cause, when our life’s schedule is altered, even the tiniest bit, my house gets out of control.

Some days, it’s so bad that I feel like I’m living in a frat house. Not that I’ve ever lived in a frat house. Not that my house is covered in pizza boxes, dirty boxers and red plastic cups. But it’s just out-of-control, I-don’t-know-where-to-start messy.

Creating a cleaning schedule has made a world of difference in how I approach cleaning (and has actually helped me hate it a little less), but when life happens and “normal” is thrown out the window, I need to have a system in place that prevents my house from turning into a disaster in [seemingly] mere minutes.

Enter my friend Dana’s ebook, 28 Days to Hope for Your Home. Reading her book has shown me that I need to have a short list of non-negotiables, things that must be done each and every day to maintain my house’s status quo.

As Dana says, if you’re the type of person who would never dream of going to bed with dishes in the sink, this book isn’t for you. But, as I say, if you’re the type of person who would never dream of saying to a friend, “Sure! Stop by anytime!” for fear they really would stop by anytime and catch you living in a fraternity house, this book is for you.

My house is reasonably clean much more often than it’s not, but I still struggle with staying on top of things day after day (especially when those days are stressful or long or otherwise unusual). Getting it through my thick skull that some things just must be done has helped. A lot.

Not that Dana is going to force you to do anything, really. She writes a blog called A Slob Comes Clean, where she honestly (and hilariously) shares just how not natural this house keeping thing is for her. But while she’s transparent and practical, empathizing with those of us who’d rather read a book or put our feet up or do pretty much anything else other than clean, she’s also encouraging and inspiring. And did I mention she’s funny?

28 Days to Hope for Your Home is a 45-page guide that includes specific, day-by-day instructions to help you develop four basic but essential home management habits, insights into why these concepts seem foreign to you and practical tips to keep you from giving up. It also has a bonus section with realistic strategies for laundry management, meal prep and decluttering. This month only, the book is just $4.00 (50% off).

Dana’s four essential habits aren’t actually the same daily, non-negotiable chores that I’ve chosen for my home. I mean, I could tell you I’m going to sweep my floor every night, but I suspect you know me better than that. But the point isn’t [just] what habits you stick to; it’s the mindset behind it and getting some motivation and encouragement to keep it up – even when life happens.

My non-negotiable daily chores are loading/emptying the dishwasher, wiping down kitchen counters, filling ice trays and wiping down the bathroom. I usually pick up the living room, too, but there are days when the toys don’t get picked up and I pretend like they aren’t there.

What are your non-negotiable daily chores that keep your house neat even when life happens?

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Airing my dirty {and cold} laundry

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Remember a few months ago when I bragged about my cleaning schedule? Well, winter – and its onslaught of long pants, heavy sweaters and pink tights (so many pink tights) – has ruined any domestic progress I may have been making.

I’ve never really thought about it before – perhaps because I’ve never had my laundry under control before. Winter is the worst laundry season at my house.

Did you notice how I said, “at my house”? I debated between that and “in my family.” But the problem isn’t really my husband and daughter. The problem is the weather, the resulting necessary clothing and my house.

I don’t have a laundry room. I have a garage with a washer and dryer in the corner. Despite what our real estate agent suggested about cute shelf paper, matching organizers and basic curtains to cover the storage area, it is not a laundry room. And for many months of the year, it’s not really a problem. Sure, it’s kind of weird to store my unfolded clothes in the same space that my husband stores his tools, mountain bike and charcoal for the grill. But at least it’s on the same level as our bedrooms.

No need for a fancy laundry chute in this tiny ranch! Just walk a few steps down the hall, open a door and hop down one step to get to the “laundry room.”

But when it turns cold, my laundry garage turns into a glorified covered porch. (And not the insulated kind that stays warm with a fake fireplace.)

I knew the sad day had come a few weeks ago when I sent my daughter out to the garage to toss a couple things in the recycling bin. Approximately three seconds after she opened the door to the garage, she screamed and my heart stopped.

“What?!” I yelled, imagining rabid raccoons, shards of glass and serial killers. [Yes. In my garage. Shut up. I have an active imagination.]

It turns out that she’d gone out there with bare feet and the garage floor was cold enough to startle her into screaming like a maniac. [Note to self: Do not assume your four-year-old will remember the rule about no bare feet in the garage.]

Just a couple days after the cold floor incident, I noticed our clothes hamper was overflowing. In the middle of the week. Now, being my usual homemaking genius, I didn’t think much about it that first week. But after a couple weeks of multiple laundry days made necessary by a full hamper just days after Monday-which-is-laundry-day, I realized something had changed.

Granted, pulling pair after pair of work pants out of the dryer and hearing my husband holler, “Do I have any clean long-sleeved t-shirts?” may have clued me in, too.

When the weather turns cold, my husband wears about 3.7 times more clothes to work. He drives a semi, but also works the dock for a few hours in the middle of the night, so it’s understandable. But it also means a whole lot more laundry! Add that to my long-sleeved shirts and sweaters and my daughter’s many pink and purple layers, and we’ve got full hampers all over the place!

But it’s not simply a matter of just doing laundry more often. [Okay, it is. But I'm going to complain and offer excuses for not doing it first.]

Shortly before Annalyn was born, we got a new washer and dryer. Nothing fancy, but they beat the 15-year-old hand-me-down machines we’d gotten from Mark’s parents when we got married. One of the main reasons we wanted to replace our old washer and dryer was the fact that it took our dryer at least two hours – if not longer – to dry one load of clothes.

Sadly, the new dryer has the same problem. I suspect it’s an electrical issue, although our friend (who is an electrician and would know) says that shouldn’t be the case. I’m familiar with the sketchy electrical situation that is our house, though, so I still have my suspicions. And, you know, the evidence of a three-hour drying cycle.

For some reason – and I have no hypothesis for this one, logical or not – the colder it is, the longer the dryer takes to get our clothes dry. So, not only do I have MORE laundry, but getting it done TAKES LONGER!

On top of that, let’s not forget the main issue. Baby, it’s cold outside. My garage is nearly as cold as the outside. And the last thing I want to do is go out there and handle wet laundry or take time to match socks and fold underwear.

Unfortunately – and you might not be surprised to hear this – ignoring my laundry does not make it disappear. And those laundry fairies I keep waiting for? They have not appeared yet! So I’m left trying to figure out how to manage this season of difficult laundry.

First of all, I keep the area in front of the washer and dryer covered with old rugs. Actually, the entire path from door to hanging rack is covered by rugs. (Of course, when our pipes get clogged and the washing machine overflows, those rugs get soaked. But – knock on wood – that hasn’t happened in quite a while.) I also plug in a space heater when it gets real cold. Second of all, I’m trying (trying!) not to let the to-be-folded laundry pile up outside. It’s much more pleasant to fold it on the dining room table than it is to do it on the top of the very cold dryer in the very cold garage.

And third, just to be nice, I’ve been bringing my husband’s hanging clothes into the house much more often. Sure, it shouldn’t be a special treat for him to put warm-out-of-the-closet clothes on after showering instead of cold-out-of-the-garage clothes. But it is. So hanging his clothes where they belong is super nice of me.

Last but not least, I’ve had to abandon my plan for one laundry day a week, and I’ve had to revert to doing about a load a day. It’s not a big deal if I stay on top of the whole folding and putting away thing, but that’s never been a real successful goal for me in the past. But hey, I learned how to [kind of] stick to a cleaning schedule, and that was new for me. Maybe this will be the winter I stay on top of my laundry!

Did I mention that sometimes my dryer shocks me? As in zings me with enough electricity that it actually hurts a bit (not surprises me with its ability to do its job and dry my clothes)? Yeah. It does.

I really shouldn’t complain, though, because that little shock is just enough to warm me up without curling my hair.

Do you have a handle on laundry? Does your family (or your house) have a “bad season” for laundry (or other chores)? And do you fold socks or just toss them in a drawer?

Resources: If you’d like to work on creating your own cleaning schedule, you might try Create Your Perfect Cleaning Schedule from Christine of I Dream of Clean.

Giving Up on a Perfect {Party}

I’ve been planning Annalyn’s birthday parties for quite a while now. Since the week before last year’s Veggie Tales party, she’s been telling me she wanted a Dora party. I think it’s great that Dora teaches kids Spanish and how to read a map, but her voice still grates on my nerves.

So I wasn’t too thrilled about this plan. Thankfully, she saw me looking at a gorgeous Minnie Mouse cake on Pinterest and changed her mind. From that moment on, full-on party planning was in force – for a Mickey Mouse party.

(It makes sense, because she has taken to calling Mickey “her favorite guy.” Yep, Daddy is apparently second to the Mouse.)

On top of a million ideas, thanks to Pinterest again, I had the pressure of her first friend party creating some extra pressure for this shindig – now, two shindigs. But I learn from my mistakes, so I resisted the lure of the fancier, more complicated party ideas and I started preparing early.

[No late-night attempts at cake decorating like last year!]

Annnnd, it’s a darned good thing I’d made those decisions. A few days before Annalyn’s friend party, we drove up to northern Iowa for Sara’s funeral. But since I’d started earlier that week, shopping for groceries and making a streamer backdrop, losing an entire day didn’t stress me out.

The two parties were scheduled on Saturdays, two weeks in a row. After putting together the streamer backdrop and two long strings of balloons, I was hopeful that the decorations would last for that week in between. And they did! We lost one balloon, but after blowing up about 36 balloons and stringing them up (which is MUCH harder than it sounds), I wasn’t about to re-do the whole thing. We just made do with a wilted balloon.

Annnnd, it’s a good thing the decorations lasted all week. Because the morning of Annalyn’s family party (this past Saturday), I woke up with a horrible, red, itchy rash ALL OVER MY FACE AND NECK.

Without giving you the gory details (or pictures, because seriously, do you think I allowed any cameras near my zombie face?), I spent the morning in urgent care, getting a steroid shot and three different prescriptions for what may possibly be a severe case of poison ivy.

My house was fairly clean from the previous week’s party, and I was only doing snacks. The cupcakes were made and decorated (although the frosting totally melted and they looked awful), but I still had to pick up a bunch of balloons for the front porch and make the Mickey-shaped Rice Krispy treats.

Thankfully, Smitty had volunteered to come early and help. So when I finally arrived home – still looking like a freak and itching like a son of a gun – less than two hours before the party was scheduled to begin, I had help throwing the party together.

I had to just deal with the fact that I wasn’t going to get my floor vacuumed or my canned food put into the pantry from a grocery trip earlier in the week. I had to accept that my entire family was going to see me look ridiculous (although I desperately wished for a shirt that said, “Yes, I have a rash on my face. No, it’s not contagious.”). And eventually, I had to realize that between a lack of sleep from an itchy night before and the massive doses of medicine I was on, I wasn’t exactly up to par as a hostess.

And yet . . . the birthday girl had a great time. And I think most of our family enjoyed the party. It wasn’t perfect, but it turned out just fine.

Giving up on a perfect party is the subject of my much-discussed and much-less-written e-book, How to Plan a Fabulous Party {without losing your mind}. And I’m excited to announce today that I’ll be launching that book in just four weeks on November 8!

I’ve got some exciting news to go along with the launch, so stay tuned for that. And make sure you’re back here in three weeks to check out my e-book!

Have you ever had a party disaster? I’d love to hear about them – and how you dealt with them, so share in the comments!

Create Your Perfect Cleaning Schedule

In the past week I have washed curtains, vacuumed blinds, cleaned windows and dusted ceiling fans. I’ve also stayed caught up on dishes and laundry (for the most part), actually putting the clean stuff away as soon as it’s finished drying.

What has come over me? Who AM I, and what I have done with your favorite hates-to-clean blogger?

Never fear, friends. I still loathe cleaning, but for the first time in EVER, I have been following a little cleaning schedule I made for myself. I haven’t followed it perfectly, and you can still find PLENTY of dusty or dirty surfaces in my house. But for once in my life, I don’t feel overwhelmed with a less-than-sparkling house and the work it will take to restore it to a decent shape.

You know who’s taught me about making a cleaning schedule – specifically, one that fits me and my house and my family? My friend Christine, who writes I Dream of Clean. And Christine is having a big day today. She’s re-launching her e-book, Create Your Perfect Cleaning Schedule!

At the moment (it’s 3:00 pm my time), she’s in the process of selling 200 copies of her e-book for just $2.00 each. (Discount code: 200for2 Once she sells that bunch of books, she’ll move onto 300 for $3.00, 400 for $4.00 and 500 for $5.00. From then on, the book is still just $5.99 – which is a STEAL when you work through the easy steps she provides and end up with a cleaning schedule that you’ll actually follow for once in your life.

(No offense. I realize you have probably stuck with cleaning schedules many times before. I was just, ahem, projecting a little…)

If you’re interested in this e-book, why not get your copy now and save a few bucks? Create Your Perfect Cleaning Schedule is a step-by-step guide to create a plan tailor made for you. It has a master list of every possible cleaning task that came to mind and many of them link back to “how to” posts so you can complete them better and faster. It also has calendar templates available for you to use when creating your schedule, and it’s a short (17 pages), quick and easy read.

Do you follow a cleaning schedule? Have you ever tried a one-size-fits-all system? I’d love to hear what works for you!

Black & Decker Steam-Mop: Review & Giveaway

I hate cleaning. As in, I really, truly despise it. So when Black & Decker contacted me about reviewing their new steam mop, all I could do was laugh. I even replied with sarcasm a laugh, saying, “If you think this will make cleaning easier, then sure. I guess.”

But I have to tell you: my brand-new, fancy-schmancy Black & Decker Steam-Mop with SmartSelect™ Technology has been sitting in its box, in my garage for WEEKS.

Not because I didn’t want to try it out! And not because I wasn’t excited to give one away to a Giving Up on Perfect reader. But because I honestly don’t mop my floors that often. As in, every few weeks.

I know. I KNOW! Gross. Right? It’s not like I don’t sweep or spot-wipe when things get sticky. But when I say I don’t like cleaning, I am not exaggerating.

However, I said I’d review this steam mop, so I have to review this steam mop. And let me tell you what, I am so glad I did!

The Black & Decker Steam-Mop has intuitive SmartSelect™ Technology, which means you simply turn the dial to the specific floor type (hardwood/laminate, tile/ vinyl or stone/marble) and the mop automatically releases the right amount of steam. That means you get a thorough (yet delicate) cleaning on all sealed hard floors – even sealed hardwoods.

Let’s be honest, though. A simple steam mop is still more difficult to use than NO MOP. Or, *ahem*, my other wet spray-and-clean-the-floor-thingy. And – it only uses water?

That’s right. It only uses water – tap water, even. So you never need to buy a replacement bottle of stuff, and even more importantly, you’re not putting that stuff (i.e., chemicals) on the floor where you walk, your kids play and your pets wallow.

[Your pets don't wallow? Okay, well, that one's just for me, then.]

Seriously, this mop took fewer than five minutes to assemble, from box to mopping. And when it says “water heats up quickly,” it means it. I’m talking about 30 seconds from pouring in the water to ready to steam. (And the little water cup even attaches to the mop, so you have a lower chance of losing it to your kids’ playroom kitchen.)

And it turns out that steaming your floors with this mop gets them REALLY clean. Even cleaner than that other contraption that uses soap. [According to the box and website, the Black & Decker Steam-Mop kills 99.9% of germs. With just water.]

Oh – and one more thing! The cleaning pads (which attach very easily to the mop) are washable. Nice!

I’m not promising that I’ll mop my floors more often, but I might. (Now that I’ve admitted my slacker-ness to you, the shame might force me into it!) And when I DO mop? I will definitely be using my Black & Decker Steam-Mop!

Now it’s your turn to admit your cleaning disasters (and possibly win your own Black & Decker Steam-Mop)! To enter this giveaway, leave a comment telling us about the biggest mess you’ve ever had to tackle in your house. For additional entries, do one (or all) of the following and leave a (separate) comment for each:

And to stay caught up on Black & Decker’s solutions for your home, visit them on Facebook! This contest will close on August 31, 2011, and one winner will be randomly chosen. Good luck!

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