Welcome to Giving Up on Perfect and my 31 Days series!
If you’re new here for my 31 Days series, thanks for joining us! I’m going to spend the next month writing about all the ways and all the things I’m just not sorry for anymore. I think this is going to be fun! So if you’re new and want to know more about me or about this blog, click over to my about page. But come back quickly because we have lots to talk about!
After all, if your grandma broke her hip, it’s not my fault. So I shouldn’t say, “I’m sorry.”
My mom told me about that article and made sure I told my best friend, too, so we could stop apologizing so much and be stronger and more precise with our language. The trick to this language swap is to make sure your sincerity comes through, because saying, “I’m sorry to hear that,” can easily sound fake. But we practiced and became pros at using this new-to-us phrase. To this day, I’m pretty sure all three of us still say, “I’m sorry to hear that,” out of habit.
The topic of how much women apologize isn’t new, but the way I’ve been thinking about it is. At least it’s new for me.
See, as I have written about and learned about giving up on perfect, I’ve realized I have a grace problem. And that’s connected to a problem accepting myself (and, sometimes, others), while I find myself in a fruitless, frustrating fight to be someone I was never created to be.
And when I fail? (Because of COURSE I fail. Trying to be someone else is never a strategy for success!) When I fail, I’m embarrassed. Ashamed, really. And so I apologize. When I come face to face with my the ways I am lacking, the ways I don’t measure up to the person I’m trying to be, I am sorry. So I say I’m sorry, or I say something that means I’m sorry. Or I do things or speak in ways or treat my relationships that all add up to: I’m sorry.
What I’ve been thinking lately is that all that apologizing is just one more way I’m trying to be perfect. And just like all my other attempts at perfection? It’s exhausting. And I don’t think all this trying…and failing…and apologizing is what God has in mind for my life, for me.
So this month, I’m giving it all a rest. I’m going to retire my tired apologies and give up, one more time, on being perfect. Will you join me? Will you find a few things that you’re not really sorry about – and quit apologizing for them? Will you, like I hope to, quit apologizing for being YOU and not someone else?
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31 Days of Not Sorry
Day 1 – 31 Days :: I’m Not Sorry
Day 2 – I’m Not Sorry I Like to Watch TV
Day 3 – I’m Not Sorry I Think These Shirts Are Hilarious
Day 4 – No Need to Be Ashamed
Day 5 – I’m Not Sorry You Caught Me at a Bad Moment
Day 6 – I’m Not Sorry I Fell Apart That One Time
Day 7 – I’m Not Sorry My Parenting Choices Work for Me
Day 8 – I’m Not Sorry for Being (or Not Being) a Pinterest Mom
Day 9 – I’m Not Sorry I’ve Decided to Choose Joy
Day 10 – I’m Not Sorry for Taking a Chocolate Break
Day 11 – When Jonah Wasn’t Sorry
Day 12 – What About When You Really Mess Up?
Day 13 – I’m Not Sorry to Call Myself a Writer
Day 14 – I’m Not Sorry I Read the Comments
Day 15 – Why Flying Makes Me Apologize
Day 16 –
Day 17 – I’m Not Sorry My Family is a Little Spicy
Day 18 – True Sorrow vs. Worldly Sorrow
Day 19 – I’m Not Sorry About the Books I Read
Day 20 – I’m Not Sorry for Being So Emotional
Day 21 – I’m Not Sorry I Need Friends
Day 22 –
Day 23 – I’m Not Sorry I Took a Couple Days Off
Day 24 – I’m Not Sorry I Haven’t Seen Your Favorite Movie
Day 25 – I’m Not Sorry I Don’t Cook Everything From Scratch
Day 26 – What Are YOU Not Sorry For?
Day 27 – I Have a Love/Hate Relationship with Change
Day 28 – My Work (and Yours) Works for Me
Day 29 – I’m Not Sorry I Didn’t Clean My House Today – or Any Day
Day 30 – I’m Not Sorry for Starting Over. Again.
Day 31 – 31 Days of Not Sorry Worked for Me
This post is part of the 31 Days Writing Challenge. To read all the posts in this series, click here. And to learn more about this challenge or to find more series to read, visit Write31Days.com. Apple photos courtesy of my brother, James.