Comments on: Marriage. Marriage is what brings us together today.

By: pipper

pipper — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:42:10 +0000

Just wanted to say that this was an excellent post! My hubby and I have had our "moments" shall we say, but in the end, we love each other even if we don't like each other from time to time (LOVE THAT SAYING YOU WROTE AND I'M TOTALLY STEALING IT! LOL).

I think people just give up too easy. I have known five different couples in the past two years that have divorced. Families broke apart and it's all so sad.

The one story that really got to me was one where this guy left his wife and two boys to reunited with his middle school sweetheart that he found via MySpace. The middle school sweetheart chick left her three kids behind in Texas (we live in TN) to be with him. Five kids who "lost" a parent and for what? I just don't buy it ya know. I think as an adult AND parent, you owe more than that to your kids. I couldn’t imagine leaving my hubby and kids behind just reconnect with someone that I knew 20 years ago. But these people did. As a Christian, I'm not suppose to judge others, but it's hard when you see parents putting their needs in front of their kids needs. I hugged my hubby extra hard that night before bed when I found out what this other guy was doing.

By: Alece

Alece — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:46:12 +0000

i wish my chapter ended differently than it does.

i'm holding out that my story ends better than it feels like it will at the moment.

(and thank you for the link, mary. and the love you've so graciously poured on me in your comments the past two weeks.)

By: ckroboth

ckroboth — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 15:34:43 +0000

Excuse me man in the Room... Hope you don't mind.

We are going to disappoint our spouses all the time. No way around it. We are human and have human desires. We are meant for perfection and expect our desires to be met 100% all the time. Each person must realize that the other will never have their desires fulfilled by the other. Only God can fully fulfill our desires 100% of the time.

I will put it to you this way. It was not until I realized that my wife would never be able to fulfill my human desires, that I freely started to love her. I put the yearning of my desires on God's shoulders not my wife's. I set her free from the burden.

But now our Marriage is stronger than ever, and desire each other even more. Even when we disappoint the other.

Hope that makes since.

By: Harvard Housewife

Harvard Housewife — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:26:08 +0000

thank you for sharing. your openness is beautiful.

By: Hillary @ The Other Mama

Hillary @ The Other Mama — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 04:31:32 +0000

I will second what Tami said. The fact that we remain together to glorify God is one thing that keeps us that way. Very lovely post about a tough issue.

By: Sarah Markley

Sarah Markley — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 23:03:49 +0000

thanks, mary. i appreciate it.

By: ginny martyn

ginny martyn — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 22:19:38 +0000

I've got my own story too. Seems that a lot of people our age do. Brave post. Thanks.

By: Tami

Tami — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 19:38:49 +0000

Married 22 years and have had our fair share of 'issues' to grow through. That's the key… 'grow through them'. I just erased a long comment that I realized is actually a blog post in the making…so I'll dive deeper into this at a later date :) but bottom line that I want to share is that society says it is all about personal satisfaction when really it is all about personal sanctification. God works out His glory in our relationships when we stop looking for personal satisfaction and start looking at what work He is wanting to do in us both. (husband and wife)

EAsy…absolutely not! Worth it…absolutely yes!!!

By: thegypsymama

thegypsymama — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:51:06 +0000

Oh, Mary - this post just gave me full body goosebumps! I just found out about a cousin who is getting divorced and I know *exactly* what you mean about wanting to hold onto your own spouse a little tighter in those moments of discovering that marriage is fragile and breaks for some people. Yes, yes, and yes, - but for the grace of God I too may have been in there shoes. It's so scary and sad at the same time. But like you, we have set our sights on Him because this marriage is more than a two person deal. We promised God we'd stay together and thank goodness He continues to hold us to it!

Big hugs, Lisa-Jo

PS: I was so wrapped up in your post I didn't even notice you'd linked me. Thanks.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:27:21 +0000

This post could not have been written at a better time. I've been married 4 years ~ I thought by now things would be easier in a marriage, when in fact I think it is harder because the 'new' has worn off, honeymoon is over and the real work has begun. I understand all the 'd' words! Thanks for the encouragement and resources.